Monday, January 26, 2015

Relationships//second chances

Caution: sappy, personal post
I have been pretty fortunate in my adult relationships. I've never done the yo-yo, back and forth thing. It's either been relationship, friends, civil, or nothing, and I'm grateful for that. It seems I've always taken a more "mature" approach to my relationships, I'm guessing mainly because of how headstrong I am, plus, I almost always know what I want and what I don't.

With that being said, being in tune with your mind and soul are so important when it comes to relationships. Sometimes you'll be in a state of limbo, but if you recognize that early on, eventually you'll know the right thing to do.

I recently re-kindled a relationship with my ex. We broke up over a year ago, and we've always kept in touch here and there, but the timing just never felt right and we both needed that time to ourselves; to explore our options and grow as individuals. However, in whatever alchemy brought us back together, it just felt right.

Here are a few things that I reminded myself of when thinking about whether or not giving it another go was a good idea. (By the way, I didn't know for sure until after I told him and got the feeling that I did the right thing.)
These things, I hope, can provide you with a basis of what to consider about your relationship, or potential relationship, too. He:
  • Is unwaveringly supportive of EVERYTHING I do (this is at the top of my list. Without support, in my opinion, there is no healthy relationship)
  • Always reassures me that I am smart, capable and strong, all things I greatly value
  • Is humble when he needs to be, and stands strong in his opinion when needed as well
  • Brings me back down to earth
  • Lets me bring him back to earth, too
  • Agrees (with me) that arguing needs to be humble and peaceful, we both don't believe that "fights" are necessary for a healthy relationship, (this is very important; discussing how to handle arguments, because they will happen)
  • Is always open to me sharing my emotions and to sharing his
  • Tells me when I'm giving him good energy (because he knows I appreciate it)
  • Looks at me like I hung the stars in the sky
  • Knows me to a T. He understands my moods, humor, what I like and don't like, and best of all, accepts, loves and appreciates all of those things and more.
I could go on and on. Never settle for less than you deserve, period. Never let anyone else define what your relationship is or should be, as long as it's healthy and happy. Also, don't compare yourself or your relationship to other people or other relationships. There is such a beauty in having something unique to you, your partner and no one else.


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